Dr. Richard Guillermo and Dr. Jesse Gill*

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One of our favorite stories in the Bible recounts the harrowing and heartbreaking experiences of Mephibosheth in the book of Second Samuel. The movements of pain, shame, and fear are followed by an incredible act of redemption which brings us hope in this fallen world. As with most Scripture the deeper meanings of the narrative are more profound than the given story, which is powerful in its own rite.

Mephibosheth came from the lineage of his grandfather Saul, the first King of Israel. We first meet Mephibosheth during the chaotic transfer of power…


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Yesterday, in the middle of rush hour traffic, a pick up truck crashed into the driver’s side door of a small car at the major intersection near our home. My wife, April, immediately came upon the scene and witnessed a screaming woman who was running into the nearby gas station.

April pulled her own car over and walked up to the demolished vehicle. The driver was a young man whose legs were trapped under the steering wheel, while his car was crushed nearly in half. The impact had burst open the passenger door, and he was hanging over the passenger…


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“After this I looked, and there before me was a great multitude that no one could count, from every nation, tribe, people and language, standing before the throne and before the Lamb.” — Revelation 7:9

My father had a habit whenever he interacted with a person from another race or culture. It was automatic, in the sense that I don’t even think he was aware that he was doing it. His habit was manifest in subconscious actions and nonverbal behaviors which spoke more to me about his views on race and racism than any of the things he intentionally said…


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March 12th, 2020, I met with a good friend at our local Starbucks (back when you could still sit down to drink your coffee at Starbucks). As I leaned forward to hug my friend, I saw the look of fear in his eyes as he pulled back abruptly and extended his fist for a quick “fist pump”. That was the day when I knew something profound was changing around me due to coronavirus. As the week unfolded the news was jam packed with one more wide sweeping change and then another.

So much has been lost to us as a…


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Do you remember your early days of falling in love with your spouse? With a flushed face, beating heart, and a mind that could not stop thinking of your beloved, you were drawn to him or her. You may have felt boundless energy, inspiration, and a reduced need for sleep on this thrill ride. Maybe you even felt a little bit high or “punch drunk” just being with your sweetheart.

I remember those days fondly with my wife. On the night of our first date she and I walked around an ornate lake in our small city. Halfway around the…


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I was recently at a birthday party for a preschooler. Everything was joyful and fun-filled. We were having a blast, both the grown-ups and the children. Then it was time for the presents. What cool toys the birthday child received!

But a tense moment ensued. The birthday boy was stockpiling all the toys in his zeal and delight. He really needed to share with another child in the room, but he was not ready to do this.

Then a miracle happened! (Anyone who can get a preschooler to share his new toy with another child has miracle working powers.) The…


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The Delightful Gaze of Love

Peek-a-boo. I see you! Do you remember playing this game with your child or grandchild?

Oh the delight this simple game brings to the hearts of little children!

Child development experts will tell you that young children enjoy this game so much because they have not yet achieved “object permanence.” In other words, they are pleasantly surprised to see their parents’ faces emerge anew each time from behind the two closed hands. They thought their parents had disappeared!

What about the parents? Why do they enjoy this game so much? They are enjoying the bonding…


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“Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with one another.” Romans 12:15,16(ESV)

Empathy is placing part of your heart into the felt experience of another person. Empathy is seeing another through the mirrored gaze of compassion and letting them see you. It’s resonance and oneness. When you have empathy you can say, “I feel what you feel.”

I know what it is like to love.

I know what it feels like to lose.

I have had the joy of sharing intimate happiness with another.


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“He has also set eternity in the human heart.” — Ecclesiastes 3:11 (NIV)

This past week I was listening to a love song that spoke about eternal love as a bride and her husband started off their married life together. The melody itself was soulful, lilting, and even sorrowing as it moved through my mind. It lingered there for a couple days, entertaining me and also asking questions. As I sat conducting a couples therapy session this afternoon, portions of the answers became more clear.

Being together forever in marriage is something that many long for. This dream fulfills a…


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Last weekend my wife took a trip to see her brother down South. I missed her and was so looking forward to seeing her. I had a nice picture in my mind for our reunion when I would pick her up at the airport. Sadly, there was a glitch with my cell phone at the airport, which made things more hectic and less romantic than I had pictured.

We quickly worked it out and picked up right where we had left off. A couple days later we took a three mile walk together in a beautiful wooded setting. …

W. Jesse Gill, Psy.D.

Dr. Gill is passionate about marriage therapy and Attachment Theory. He conducts therapy, workshops, and trains other counselors. www.facetofacemarriage.com

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